Tag Archive: Peace

  1. How To Stop Worrying About What Other People Think Of You

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    Everyone wants to be liked and accepted, but many of us spend too much time and energy worrying about what other people think. You might not even realise you’re doing it, but these kinds of thoughts are unhealthy and stressful, making us feel unworthy and removing our attention from the present moment.

    Here are four steps to help you stop worrying about what other people think, designed to help you maintain healthier and happier relationships with yourself and others.

    1. Understand why you care.

    In order to break the cycle, it’s important to understand where the energy is coming from. We’ve been socialised by a culture that sets norms for our belongingness. From birth, we’re taught we should act a certain way, dress a certain way, buy certain products, and adhere to certain ideologies to be liked and accepted. Social media brings the popularity contest to a whole new level, where how many friends we have, and how much they “like” us, is now publicly broadcast and recorded.

    We are stressed and exhausted trying to manage our real and online personas to make sure that people continue to like and accept us. Many of us have spent our whole lives in this cycle, believing that a certain set of actions would bring us acceptance, only to repeatedly find that this is not the case. This is a form of social conditioning that we must now give ourselves permission to release!

    1. Learn this mantra: What Other People Think About Me Is None of My Business!

    The root of the problem with caring about what people think about you is that you’re attaching yourself to an outcome that you have absolutely no control over. That’s right, you have NO CONTROL over what people say, do and think about you! You can have the best intentions, or you can do something ridiculous: It doesn’t matter. You do not control the way people will respond, just as they do not control the way you respond to them.

    The belief that you have any ownership of or control over people’s opinions about you comes from a place of ego. The reality is that what other people think about you is none of your business! Take a moment and begin to process and accept this perspective. See how the mantra makes you feel, and note the resistance you might feel from your ego. This is normal.

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    1. Direct the energy to something positive.

    This new perspective frees up an immense amount of time and energy to live in the NOW and experience your authentic flow. It also breaks the cycle of conditioning that if you could only do X, say Y, and buy Z, people would like and accept you. Deep inside we know that true acceptance comes from within. So instead of caring so much if someone might be talking about you behind your back …

    Breathe, repeat your mantra, and then direct the excess energy towards something positive, like following your passion and doing what you love! And if you don’t know what you’re passionate about, go and find out! Try a creative new activity, such making art, dancing, playing music, or building something. You’ll be amazed at how happy and free you feel when you spend time doing what you love instead of worrying about what other people think!

    1. Practice daily self-love and acceptance.

    When you’re living and creating from a place of genuine love and acceptance, you will know that what other people do, say, and think about you really has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. If you don’t like what they have to say about you, you can walk away knowing you are being true to yourself.

    A regular, daily practice of self-love and self-acceptance is key for releasing attachment to outcomes and maintaining happy, healthy relationships. For many people, this journey begins with meditation, breath-work, yoga, eating healthy, spending time in nature, and creating art. No matter what you do, make sure to do something that reminds you how much you love yourself every day. As you feel more self-love and self-acceptance, you will attract more of it into your space.

    This is a life-long mission, not an instant transformation that happens overnight, so please be kind and forgive yourself if you fall back into the cycle of worrying about what other people think. If you find yourself feeling attached to their opinions of you, just remember that their attitudes are unique and personal to them … and truly none of your business!

    Good Vibes.

     

  2. 15 new daily habits to boost your life today

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    Isn’t it easy to get caught up in the normal old routine and feel trapped in the ‘same old same old’? How many times have you set good intentions to start a new routine, a new diet or exercise plan, and then after (usually a very) short time you go back to your old ways? I know, I have been there many times!

    So if you’re determined to make a change in your life now, then read on and incorporate these new habits into your daily routine. Once you have introduced new actions into your daily life they will soon become a habit. Wouldn’t it be great to replace your old habits with positive and productive new habits? Start with a couple at a time until they become regular. No saying “I will try” – get it done as it’s the result that matters!!!

    Good Luck and Good Vibes.

    1. Wake up early

    Ensuring you have a sufficient number of hours of sleep the night before, wake up early and start the day with a positive mind-set. You can achieve so much more earlier in the morning when you don’t have the distractions, and the feeling of satisfaction you get when you’ve completed most of your tasks before other people have even started their day is transforming!

    2. Drink water with lemon

    Having a glass of water with lemon first thing in the morning helps rid your body of toxins that have been stored overnight. Not only does it aid your digestive tract, it also boosts your metabolism, helping you feel energised sooner. A couple of slices of lemon squeezed into the glass is enough to freshen up your morning.

    3. Say out loud the things you’re grateful for

    From the law of attraction, being grateful for the things you have will bring more great things to you. So start your day by saying out loud 10 things that you are grateful for in your life. Don’t think too hard about it, you can be grateful for the simple things in life. Just say the first thing that comes to mind and you will soon be comfortable with this new habit. Finish off the routine by saying Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.

    4. Write down your priorities for the day

    We don’t want you to write lists about lists, so keep your to-do list short and focus on the priorities. Stick to no more that a top 10 list as these are priorities after all. I find that writing down an estimated activity time down against each action helps to plan the day better, and also keeps you motivated to get the actions complete. Your sense of achievement increases when you complete the tasks on time, and you can then write a new list of priorities. It really does work wonders!

    5. Read your Desires List

    First of all you should write down all the things you desire in life. Not just the ‘things’ you want but how you want to be living, where you want to go and who you want to be. Each day you should read out this list and truly feel that you are already living them (this is important). This will work on your subconscious and you will start to attract these things into your life. By reviewing this daily you are focusing on what you really want in life in a positive way, which will result in positive outcomes.

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    6. Meditate for 10 minutes

    Having stillness for only 10 minutes each day will have huge positive impacts on your life. Being in touch with the self will help you to become more mindful and aware of what is actually happening. You can control and decrease unnecessary stress that today’s busy life brings. You will gain more control over your emotions and be able to make better life decisions. We cannot control the thoughts that enter our minds, but we can control how we react to these thoughts, and meditation is a great way to slow down the pace of your life and live at peace.

    7. Exercise

    Getting up and moving around every day is one of the most essential daily habits you should get into. Not only will it keep you fit and healthy, but it will add time to your life and provide endorphins to make you happy. Yoga is my personal favourite but no matter what you like, just make sure that you build it into your routine. Similar to meditation, exercise calms the mind and breaks down any stress in the body and mind. Joining a health club also has great social benefits and you will feel great meeting new people.

    8. Smile

    Smiling can make you happy even when you are not. The simple act of smiling sends a message to your brain that you are happy, and when you are happy your body sends out feel-good endorphins. Smiling also makes other people happy and brightens up your day without you even realising it. So be conscious of your mood and make an effort to smile throughout the day and especially when you come into contact with people.

    9. Talk to people

    Our brains are literally created to connect with others. So while it may be great to have some alone time or simply switch to autopilot when going through your daily commute, the truth is that we crave connection. Satisfy your innate desire and the desire of others by reaching out and talking to strangers. A lack of human connection can make you feel depressed, alone and isolated so pick up the phone and make sure you speak to more people every day.

    10. Do at least one thing that brings you joy

    Do something you love every day of your life. Treat yourself and be good to yourself. Our daily lives are full of things that we often don’t feel like doing, so make sure you take some time for yourself and do something that you love. Be ‘in the moment’ and really appreciate doing this thing. It could be something quick and simple but it will make you feel great.

    11. Eat healthy – make it nutritious

    Consider, really consider what you are putting into your body. Learn more about nutrition and cut out the foods that do not provide you with nutrition. Many people are over fed but under nourished. Rather than follow new fad diets, just list the sort of things that you will not eat such as processed foods and high sugar content foods. Buy a juicer and make juices every day to get the nutrition your body needs. Cut out fizzy drinks and drink water instead. These small changes will make huge improvements to your wellbeing.

    12. Listen to motivational audio

    It is easy to fall back into old patterns and get lost in thoughts. Therefore, listening to positive motivational audio helps to bring your thought patterns back to the healthy state you desire. You can listen to audiobooks or even search for some good material on you tube. Just like keeping your body fit, your mind needs constant positive exercise too!

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    13. Connect with nature

    Spending time outdoors in nature is a great way to obtain an improved sense of wellbeing. Researchers have found that regardless of culture people gravitate to images of nature. Our inborn affiliation for nature may explain why we prefer to live in houses with particular views of the natural world.

    14. Be of service to someone

    Ask yourself each day – ‘Who can I serve today’? Try to make someone’s day, every day—and not only for their benefit. Kindness actually has numerous health benefits. Plus, who doesn’t like helping someone? It puts a smile on everyone’s face!

    15. Visualise tomorrow

    This should be done at night before bed. By visualising what you want to achieve the next day, you program your subconscious mind which will prepare you for the morning. You will become more effective and more productive because you’re ready and everything is within your reach. It will also help you to spring out of bed motivated and knowing what you want to achieve.

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  3. The best beach in Brazil – Taipu de Fora

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    This place is amazing. If you are looking for peace and tranquility, and to walk for miles on an unspoiled beach shadowed by coconut trees where you can have a chilled holiday, then this place is for you. An early rise before 6am is well worth it for the beautiful sunrise, as this little town faces the South Atlantic Ocean on the coast in the state of Bahia.

    It was only by chance that I found this gem of a beach town during my travels around Brazil. I had been in a town not so far away named Itacare, a popular place for surfers, backpackers and tourists. Itacare was great (and will be covered in another post), but I was looking for something even quieter to move on to so that I could focus on finishing my website and blog. As if by chance, I met a couple, Bea and Renato, who were also staying at the same pousada (Brazilian name for a small hotel) and they told me about Taipu de Fora and that they had a pousada there. A few days later, I booked up and travelled to Taipu de Fora.

    Beautiful Bahia

    This tiny beach town lies on the ‘Peninsula de Marau’ on the Bahia coast, south of Salvador. There is a direct route by road but the last 45km is basically a dirt track which is not the most comfortable ride with many potholes and almost impassable in wet conditions unless you have a 4×4. Most of the locals like it this way as it makes the place less reachable and therefore it has been able to keep its chilled atmosphere and quiet life. Few cars circulate the area and most people get around the sandy roads by quad bike. There is no bank or cash machine anywhere near so be sure to bring cash, although most places do accept card.

    A more comfortable way to travel there is to take a speed boat from Camamu to Barra Grande, which lies at the tip of the Peninsula and then a taxi/pickup truck to Taipu de Fora 10 minutes away. It is also less expensive as the taxi drivers do add a large tariff for the wear and tear of their cars for travelling the long bumpy dirt roads. I took the taxi both ways and it was fun, although I did need to close my eyes a few times as cars going both ways fight for the right to drive on the less rugged terrain.

    The beach at Taipu de Fora is the most popular in the area mainly due to the inviting natural swimming pools that appear during low tide each day. Whilst the Peninsula goes on further in each direction, the Taipu beach is 7km long and covered with golden sand and spread with giant coconut trees. There is coral surrounding the beach which reaches the surface during low tide and therefore blocks the waves from reaching the beach. It makes it a safe environment for swimming and even better for snorkeling. There are many species of tropical fish only metres from the beach and the visibility is usually excellent. The calm water also makes it popular for stand up paddle. Then only 50m away is a wonderful surfing beach suitable for beginners and pros depending on which part of the bay you go to. I enjoyed getting on the board again and catching some waves after many years absence.

    Bambu Dourada

    Pousada Bambu Dourada in situated in an excellent location very near to the main street (when I say main street, I mean a sandy little road with a small supermarket, a couple of shops and a couple of restaurants). This boutique hotel oozes the love and attention that art lovers Bea and Renato have put into it, and you immediately feel at home with their warmth. I particularly enjoyed listening to Renato’s music collection as I lay in the hammock writing my journal, and the morning yoga class that Bea would teach. As well as Portuguese and German, they both speak English very well which was pleasing for me as most places in this area only speak Portuguese (we are in Brazil after all).

    The walk north along the coast is spectacular, with the beautiful water of the Atlantic on your right and a coastline packed with palm trees on your left. It took me around 2 hours to reach Barra Grande after stopping for a swim a few times to cool down from the midday sun. Being Scottish I made the mistake of not bringing a hat or enough sunscreen and returned pretty red!  However, that was all worth it as the sunset from the beach at Barra Grande is spectacular.

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    When you visit here, make sure to bring lots to read and expect a nice relaxed holiday, although you could rent a quad bike and explore the nearby lagoons and beaches, or take a boat trip. I found it to be very safe, even at the deserted beach at night whilst observing the myriad of stars. It also has a real spiritual feel, and I was pleasantly surprised to meet some very intriguing people in this tiny town.

    It is mostly Brazilian tourists who visit at this time and not many Europeans or Americans have found this paradise yet, but many of them who do have not left. I can understand why they decided to buy some land, build a pousada and make this their new home in Paradise. It just might be something I also do.

    Peace and Good Vibes.